How to have a Happy Mother's Day: A Mother's Ugly Tale....

A Mother's Ugly Mother's Day Tale and lesson learned:

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I was unable to receive love on Mother's Day because it was clouded with expectations which always leads to disappointment. Mother's Day should be about opening up to love. Setting intentions to give and therefor receive love is the key. Ask yourself, "How can I give it away today?" and then you will receive more than you will ever need!

I have had Mother's Day all wrong in the past. Here is my tale.

I used to have self pity at the end of a Mother's Day. Why didn't my family care enough to make my day more special? One time, I opened a gift from my 5 year old son. It was a class book that the teacher had prepared in school. The template said "I love my mother because......" The child had to fill in the blank. As I read through the responses of his classmates (smiling, enjoying and anticipating what my son wrote) I felt happy and I couldn't wait for the page where I was honored. I read "I love my mother because...": She is always so nice, she hugs me everyday, she does so much for me, she is the best mommy ever, she plays with me, she is happy, she......! My sons response was the very last one. Here it goes...."I love my mother because.....she lets me play with my FATHER!" One of my many low moments here: I'm going to be vulnerable..... We were driving in the car and my sweet 5 year old was in the back seat smiling and proud. I turned around with the devil in my eyes, rage in my bones, darkness in my heart and said (loudly), "Are you KIDDING me? Who cleans for you? Who cooks for you? Who does your laundry? Who tucks you in every night? Who helps you with school work? Who shops with you and takes you places? Who invites your friends over and throws you birthday parties? Huh? Huh? Who? ......Let's you play with your father? Wow...." I tore into the sweet child with a vengeance. He started crying. He went from proud to dismayed and mortified. And I was glad.... (I'm pretty sure I had PMS that day and we can all laugh about it now)
Yes, I know, this is so sick (abusive) However, I did learn an important lesson eventually (this was 20 years ago). I CHOSE how to respond that day. I could have felt honored and selfless. I chose selfishness. I made my own day miserable.
When we choose love, we get love. We have to give it away selflessly to get it back. The best way we can honor Mothers Day (and everyday) is to wake up and set our intention to give love away all day in every way to every person we encounter. We will then be filled with the self-love and the love from others we deserve. It reminds me of the song with the lyrics "Love is something if you give it away. It's just like a magic penny. If you spend it, you end up having more." It's true! Go and spend your love today! It's magical.

Happy Mothers Day! Spend your love everyday and be full always! You deserve it!

Consider yourself loved and honored,

Cindy Walter